Here are a few thoughts on one of the most underrated of character qualities. I want to go on record that I do not consider myself an expert, but I have had very good teachers, the first and perhaps most excellent and influential was my father.
I once heard a sermon titled “The Way Up is Down”. This is probably the best snapshot of humility. A favorite metaphor of mine can be found in the book of Isaiah: “Every valley shall be exalted”. Humility can be stated simply as the process of putting yourself into a lower bracket of esteem and in exchange you get something of value that will enrich your life (and many times the lives of others), while at the same time you will attain to a higher bracket of esteem--truly a win/win. In physics, this would be described as placing yoursef at a lower potential energy level so that eventually you will wind up at a higher potential energy level.
I believe an adjunct of humility is honesty. One who is honest about his lack of having the handy solution to an immediate question or problem, for instance, will be immediately exposed to general attention centering on his state of being in need of instruction or wisdom. He may even be forced into the position of actually asking for information or other assistance. At this juncture, I would hasten to call attention to a phenomenon I have observed constantly in my life. Quite simply put, it is this: If you ask questions, sooner or later you will get answers. When you get answers, you are informed. If you are informed, you will very likely be respected. Hopefully, Rodney Dangerfield discovered this while he was still alive. At any rate, being respected and informed would have to be considered a lofty position. Lofty = high up. Are we connecting?
The reason I am so high on humility (now there’s a paradox) is because I’ve seen it cause a lot of good things to happen. Businesses get built up, broken relationships get restored, dreams are realised, and much more.
As I have said, I have had (and still have) many teachers in regard to this subject. My dad was perhaps the greatest, and I can summarize by saying I carry with me the vivid childhood memory of my dad being pulled over by an irate driver who chastised him for passing on a double yellow line. My father, who was a medical doctor by profession and a man of considerable stature in the community, quietly received the angry man’s scolding and at last replied, “Yes. Thank you.” I don’t know anything about this fellow, but I have reflected years later on this incident and realized how easy it would have been for my Dad to have discounted the complainant’s social status or other alleged liability, but he didn’t. He humbled himself in front of his family and accepted the correction. I might add, we never had an accident in the car while my father was driving.
Finally, I would say that humility does not mean letting people arbitrarily walk over you, but rather it is to cultivate a teachable spirit. I liken humility to the process of gearing up for a game, conflict or other endeavor--it’s like getting an extra sole put on your shoe in preparation for a long journey.
